Are you using self help strategies to increase retirement happiness?
Most retirees want a life that is happy, full, and satisfying. Yet there may be a nagging inner voice that wonders whether a different approach to retirement might be more fulfilling. Is there another path that will increase happiness?
As we look to learn and grow, self help methods often aid the search.
Self help refers to the process of helping oneself — with or without the assistance of others who may have similar goals. It is often linked to self-improvement and increased confidence.
It possible to achieve greater retirement happiness by self help strategies. The process takes effort and focus. It also happens gradually as a change of attitude and mindset is required.
Types of Self Help
The most commonly used self help comes from the internet. Whether it is advice to cope with a calamity or advice on wealth, power, or fame — a self help method is easy to find.
We search for online for answers to all types of everyday questions. The stroke of a finger brings driving directions, news feeds, entertainment, recipes, travel options, and addresses. Dr. Google is consulted for all questions about health or lifestyle. Reminders, ‘to do’ lists and various ‘apps’ govern many daily decisions.
Self help also comes in the form of groups. Most self help groups have evolved from the 12 Step program for addictions including alcohol, substance abuse, gambling, eating. Such groups provide emotional support, experiential knowledge, friendship and practical strategies to make important life changes.
Many people prefer self help books over the internet. Such books abound and have high readership. People seeking information about overcoming personal challenges often start with a self-help book, then follow-up with a group or, perhaps a counsellor.
Self help can increase retirement happiness
It is possible to become happier by using self help strategies.
Happiness can be considered a habit and a way of thinking about life. To develop the happiness habit, breaking old patterns of negative thinking and negative behaviour are required.
We know that habits are hard to change. Anyone who has broken habits like smoking or nail biting knows that constant vigilance is needed. Adopting positive habits like exercising regularly is an equally difficult challenge. Determination, regular practice and strong commitment are needed.
Attaining happiness also takes effort. Some of the basics include adopting a positive attitude, forgiving wrongs that others have done to us, letting go of past failures or disappointments, and forgetting unpleasant events. Mental attitudes and approaches need examination and reassessment.
Other strategies for improving happiness include gratitude, journalling, meditation, prayer, taking action, and practising acts of kindness and nurturing relationships.
No technique will work every time. Each of us has to experiment and take personal responsibility for happiness.