When Valentine’s Day comes on February 14, so many people yawn and say, ‘So what? rather than looking for ways to celebrate. Many face the day anticipating loneliness. How sad!
Others see it as a way to show caring by celebrating love however it may come. I’m fortunate to be in a long-term love relationship but I’m aware that not all readers are in this situation. Please read on as I believe that everyone can celebrate some type of love.
How to Celebrate Love on Valentine’s Day
Once every year all of us have an opportunity to celebrate love in our lives.
For those who have a partner, spouse, lover, celebrations are opportunities to affirm the love we feel for each other. Sometimes we choose a Hallmark moment like schmaltzy cards, flowers, or chocolates. Sometimes, it’s breakfast in bed or a special dinner.
For readers who aren’t in couple relationships, it’s still possible to celebrate love. There is love that can be shared with family members — children, grandchildren, siblings, cousins, etc. Don’t forget mom and dad on Valentine’s Day — parents want their children to remember them on this day. Small gestures bring big rewards in terms of family bonds.
Love can also be celebrated with friends. I know a group of single women who gather every February 14 for a potluck dinner with decadent desserts and many glasses of wine. It’s an excuse for a party!
I hear of others who schedule a spa afternoon for pampering. Or they meet someone for coffee or lunch or a movie instead of staying home alone. Valentine’s Day does not have to be a day of resentment.
For those who are lonely…
Loneliness can deliver a wallop on Valentine’s Day. People grieving the loss of a partner or a long-term love relationship understandably feel pain rather than joy on Valentine’s Day.
Most of us know people who live alone. For some of these people, the isolation brought on by pandemic restrictions has been acute and demoralizing. A phone call or an email on Valentine’s Day can show that you think of them and care about their well-being. Such outreach can have an immeasurable positive effect bringing happiness and a sense of belonging.
Celebrating Valentine’s Day can also mean taking time for self-care. It’s never selfish to love oneself. Most of us need to take time to listen to what’s deep in our hearts to understand that we’re okay just as we are. We don’t need to succeed at everything we do. Mediocrity is okay. We don’t need to exhaust ourselves trying for excellence.
This can also be a day to forgive yourself for past mistakes. Nobody is perfect and we’ve all made mistakes. Accept responsibility if you have done harm but forgive yourself to move on and learn from the experience.
Self-care can also mean leaving behind admonitions for productivity. Relentless expectations to ‘do’ can be abandoned in favour of a day when it’s okay to ‘be’.
Celebrating Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean you need to be in a romantic relationship. There are many ways to show love. We can start by celebrating ourselves and being kind, first to ourselves and then to others.
Finally, when I think about what love means, I know that it’s about much more than romance. It’s about caring about oneself and caring for others.
I hope that every reader finds love in some form on Valentine’s Day. More than that, I hope that every reader finds a way to spread love and make a difference in our hurting world. After all, it’s Valentine’s Day — so celebrate in whatever way that makes you love and feel loved in return.